Disruptions change who we are
Sep 27, 2024
Life disruptions bring change.
The change is different for each of us.
And how we experience the change is different for each of us.
But there is always change.
Like a ...
Change in how we see ourselves.
Change in lifestyle.
Change in relationships.
Change in what we are willing to tolerate.
Change in values.
Change in how we care for our bodies.
Change for how we care for our mental health.
Change in what we believe.
Change in who we trust.
Change in how we envisioned our future.
Change in what we are willing to tolerate.
Change.
Change.
Change.
Sometimes the changes are welcome.
Sometimes they are not.
And, if we are not careful a disruption can keep us in a spin of negative emotions - fear, worry, resentment, embarrassment, anger, self pity, shock, grief, etc...
They can harden us.
Or, they can break us open and reveal ourself to ourself.
They can be an opportunity for profound assessment of what is working and what is not in our life. They can be an invitation to shift. Get us clearer on our values. Get us clearer on our goals. Get us clearer on the life we wish to live.
And, if you are at midlife you have surely experienced at least one disruption. I surely have, as have my friends.
And, as a result, I am on a mission to live a life with which I am obsessed. I will not allow a disruption to harden me, or create cynicism, or shut me down.
I am committed to maximizing my midlife.
To declutter ideas, connections, goals, and environments that no longer serve who I am becoming. Or, who I wish to become. To live authentically. To care very little about others' opinions of me (I mean, I am human... criticism is hard.) But, others' words can not derail me from my goal of living a life I can not get enough of...
And, as I create this life with which I am obsessed I am not waiting until everything is perfect. My body, my bank account, my marriage, my home, my relationships. No, I am forging forward.
I even joined a mastermind about creating an obsessed life.
I'm that serous about this.
And, my obsession with my new life began the first day of the retreat.
I worked my tail off to afford the tuition and travel expenses and damn it felt good to invite my husband along and have him run and swim and bike and meet for romantic lunches in between our sessions. I want him to be obsessed with his life too!
So, on my journey to an obsessed life I am focussing on a few things (I've given these a lot of thought):
The change is different for each of us.
And how we experience the change is different for each of us.
But there is always change.
Like a ...
Change in how we see ourselves.
Change in lifestyle.
Change in relationships.
Change in what we are willing to tolerate.
Change in values.
Change in how we care for our bodies.
Change for how we care for our mental health.
Change in what we believe.
Change in who we trust.
Change in how we envisioned our future.
Change in what we are willing to tolerate.
Change.
Change.
Change.
Sometimes the changes are welcome.
Sometimes they are not.
And, if we are not careful a disruption can keep us in a spin of negative emotions - fear, worry, resentment, embarrassment, anger, self pity, shock, grief, etc...
They can harden us.
Or, they can break us open and reveal ourself to ourself.
They can be an opportunity for profound assessment of what is working and what is not in our life. They can be an invitation to shift. Get us clearer on our values. Get us clearer on our goals. Get us clearer on the life we wish to live.
And, if you are at midlife you have surely experienced at least one disruption. I surely have, as have my friends.
And, as a result, I am on a mission to live a life with which I am obsessed. I will not allow a disruption to harden me, or create cynicism, or shut me down.
I am committed to maximizing my midlife.
To declutter ideas, connections, goals, and environments that no longer serve who I am becoming. Or, who I wish to become. To live authentically. To care very little about others' opinions of me (I mean, I am human... criticism is hard.) But, others' words can not derail me from my goal of living a life I can not get enough of...
And, as I create this life with which I am obsessed I am not waiting until everything is perfect. My body, my bank account, my marriage, my home, my relationships. No, I am forging forward.
I even joined a mastermind about creating an obsessed life.
I'm that serous about this.
And, my obsession with my new life began the first day of the retreat.
I worked my tail off to afford the tuition and travel expenses and damn it felt good to invite my husband along and have him run and swim and bike and meet for romantic lunches in between our sessions. I want him to be obsessed with his life too!
So, on my journey to an obsessed life I am focussing on a few things (I've given these a lot of thought):
- A romantic, alive, sexy, and fulfilling marriage
- A relationship with my daughters that is honest, whimsical, generous, supportive, and expansive
- A spiritual life that is free from "shoulds" and filled with love, trust, and connection.
- A business that serves dear souls while creating financial freedom and lets me share skills I have invested in developing for the last 25 years.
- Quiet and consistent generosity - with my actual family and chosen family, with my home, my time, my money, my love, my prayers, and my thoughts about others. (oh to be generous and compassionate instead of judging and filled with assumptions. My biggest takeaway from my most recent disruption.)
- Gratitude for all that I have (most of which I longed for as a young adult ago) - my strong family of 4, healthy active parents, dear friends, loving pets, our home that feels like a sanctuary, financial stability, a little bit of travel.
- A body that allows me to do 1-6.
In this season I am not seeking adventure. In fact I am committed to rest, peace, calm, and simplicity. And, I may define those differently than others. Yes, I will still talk and laugh loudly. Yes, I will savor friends on my deck. Yes, I will be on line to share my knowledge and promote my business. Yes, I will indulge in a lovely hotel here and there, but mostly I want a quiet and private life. A deep intentional life.
I write this midday, as Lewis practices classical guitar in the same room where I am working. I have a fresh manicure, pedicure, and haircut. I am sipping a non alcoholic rose (part of my 30 day goal to omit alcohol from my life). I have a list of activities to do in my business that truly excite me. And, I feel such happiness. #obsessed
One could say, I am obsessed with my day. And, guess what? Today did not happen by accident. Today happened as a result of very intentional thoughts and actions. (and I thank me for dedicating the time and emotional processing to create today.)
If you are interested in creating a life with which you are obsessed, an intentional mindset and increasing your emotional capacity to feel all feelings is the key. And, I don't recommend DIYing it. Read books, talk to friends, go to therapy, or hire me. My one on one clients often come to me after a professional disruption. And they walk away with a new lens, clarity, and direction, not just in their career, but in other areas of their lives too. And, I am going to step up my intention with my current clients and keep pushing them to live a life with which they are obsesesd. If this appeals to you, let's chat about all the possibiltiies waiting for you.
Onward,
Kristin
I write this midday, as Lewis practices classical guitar in the same room where I am working. I have a fresh manicure, pedicure, and haircut. I am sipping a non alcoholic rose (part of my 30 day goal to omit alcohol from my life). I have a list of activities to do in my business that truly excite me. And, I feel such happiness. #obsessed
One could say, I am obsessed with my day. And, guess what? Today did not happen by accident. Today happened as a result of very intentional thoughts and actions. (and I thank me for dedicating the time and emotional processing to create today.)
If you are interested in creating a life with which you are obsessed, an intentional mindset and increasing your emotional capacity to feel all feelings is the key. And, I don't recommend DIYing it. Read books, talk to friends, go to therapy, or hire me. My one on one clients often come to me after a professional disruption. And they walk away with a new lens, clarity, and direction, not just in their career, but in other areas of their lives too. And, I am going to step up my intention with my current clients and keep pushing them to live a life with which they are obsesesd. If this appeals to you, let's chat about all the possibiltiies waiting for you.
Onward,
Kristin